How to Get Along with Your Parents When You Live at Home in Relationships

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Whether you're working, at uni or college, or have just moved back home after graduating, living at home when you're a little bit older can present some challenges - here's how to make it work for everyone.

1. Act like an adult


If you live at home and your parents still do your laundry or clean your room, things haven't changed much since you were a child. Take your turn in helping around the house and do things for yourself. Phoning to make a dentist appointment for yourself the first time can be scary, but it's what being an adult is all about. 

2. Participate


"You treat this place like a hotel". Hands up who hasn't heard that before? Balance the new things in your life with staying at home sometimes. Once your parents see that you're still around, it'll be easier for them to accept that you're free to do what you want the rest of the time. You don't have to do every little thing with your family, but coming home, grunting hello and then locking yourself in your bedroom isn't a great way to say thanks to your parents for letting you stay with them (possibly at a much cheaper cost than renting your own place.)

3. Focus on the positives


There are some great things about living independently, but there are also a lot of positives to being at home with your folks. Whether it's a home-cooked meal on a Sunday, a lift home after a night out, or the peace and quiet of not having six rowdy flatmates coming in and out - take some time to appreciate the perks you have living at home.

4. Cut your parents some slack


Your parents have been with you for the majority of, if not your entire life. It can be a difficult adjustment seeing their baby go out into the big world. Be reasonable and answer when they ask where you're going, who you're going with and when you'll be back - they're just interested in keeping up with what is going on in your life and want to make sure you're safe.

5. Set boundaries


While it's important to be understanding of your parents' concern, it's also important to set boundaries and remind them that you're an adult who needs to have some privacy and autonomy - ask them to knock before they come into your room or let them know you're going to do your own food shopping. When both you and they are adults, it's all about mutual respect and consideration.

Remember, your parents are doing you a big favour by letting you stay on with them a bit longer than you'd been intending - so don't take that for granted. Plus, this is the perfect opportunity for you to enjoy spending some quality time with your family before moving on to your next step. One day you'll look back and miss it, so enjoy it while it lasts.