6 Tips to Getting On With the Fam This Xmas in Relationships
Find out how to keep the peace, not just at the dinner table on Christmas day, but throughout the festive season!
It’s all relative
Family gatherings often involve lots of trying comments and questions from your relatives, like ‘oh haven’t you grown!’ and ‘have you got a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?’
Remember that your relatives are just trying to start a conversation with you, so try not to find their questions too annoying.
Why not turn the tables and try asking your relatives questions instead? You will be surprised by what cool stuff they got up to when they were younger. Plus, it’s likely they’ve brought you a little gift to pop under the tree, which is just a bonus!
It could be the fourth year in a row that your Grandma’s got you an old pair of knobbly socks in a colour that you hate, however being considerate and telling a small white lie won’t hurt anybody.
Try not to get jealous of your friends
It’s normal to have a friend who always gets better presents than you. Equally, you might get a bunch of cool gifts that one of your other friends is envious about.
Try not to spend your entire holiday nagging your parents or guardian with “But his parents got him this” or “But she got 7 presents and I only got 5!” It doesn’t normally work and will more than likely just irritate your parents.
Bargaining about presents can often be hard if you really, really want something. Try to be reasonable if you write a Christmas list and don’t be disappointed if you didn’t get everything you wanted. Appreciate that your parents, guardians or carers have done the best they can for you!
There will definitely be times when you won’t agree with your parents. Big fights sometimes happen, unfortunately even during the festivities - and we’re not saying you have to be on your best behaviour for the rest of your life - but try and keep your cool if you are having a difference of opinion.
If things start getting heated, take a break and talk again later. Don’t let a little disagreement stop you from making the most of the time you’re spending around each other without the responsibilities of school or work!
Find your inner sous-chef or baby-sitter
During Christmas time, some families go all out in their preparations for the upcoming festivities and some are far more ‘bah humbug’ about it all. People celebrate Christmas differently all over the world and some not at all, but what are the little things that you can you do to make the day go a little smoother?
In terms of food, you might not want to start with one of the main events, such as the turkey (if you’re having one!) or the trimmings, but you could lend a hand at peeling and chopping - or even setting the table. As long as you don’t do a Chandler Bing and try to wash the spuds with soap, we think you’ll be alright!
Also, if you’re old enough and you have little brothers and sisters, or younger family members coming over, step up and offer to take care of them. It will relieve your family of stress and the lack of little ones running around causing mischief might help avoid any accidents when bringing things through to the table. Little acts like this will go a long way in helping your family out and making sure everything runs smoothly, plus it’s a great chance for you to prove you can handle some more independence and responsibility.
Try not to get in people’s way
Christmas is a big day for those who celebrate it and your parents or guardians put a lot of effort into preparing the meal and making it a special day for the whole family.
Although you might be feeling a bit nosy - and the smells coming from the kitchen might be too good to resist - if you’ve been told to keep out of the way, take the time to relax and watch some Christmas Day telly or a film!
Help out during the clear-up
It may be impossible by the end of the day to see your floor from all the wrapping paper strewn across it, and the table will probably be a mess of spilt sauces and assorted cutlery. So lend your family a hand with clearing up and helping sort out what can be recycled.