6 Tips to Fix That Fall Out in Relationships
Our relationships with friends, partners and family don't always go smoothly. Check out our top tips for sorting conflicts with the people you love.
1) Try and see their side of things
There's usually a bit of right (and wrong) on both sides.
When negotiating with your parents and guardians, try to remember that they're responsible for you until you're 16, and sometimes you've just got to accept their rules. With younger siblings, keep in mind what it was like when you were their age, and the other issues they might be dealing with.
2) Be clear about what you want
Nobody can read your mind! You don't need to shout (it won't help), but you do need to make sure other people know exactly what the problem is and why you're upset.
You also have to give the other person a chance to have their say. Listen carefully, don't interrupt and, if you don't understand, ask them to explain.
3) Keep the temperature down
Shouting, bawling and storming around doesn't help solve anything.
If you're angry, try to calm down before confronting anyone. If they're angry, give them space and don't let their anger affect you.
4) Talk about it!
If something's bugging you, try not to bottle it up or sulk. Talking (or writing) about difficult situations can help us sort out our thoughts and feelings. This can be really handy if we need to get our point of view across to someone else.
Find someone who's not involved and talk about how you feel.
You can also call confidential helplines such as Childline (0800 1111), for help and advice.
5) Take a breather
If things are getting heated, suggest a ten minute break and come back to talk when everyone's feeling a bit more reasonable.
If your argument is with someone you don't have to see every day, it's tempting just to avoid them. However, if you want to be friends again, don't leave things to fester. Once you've calmed down, get together and try to talk about what happened.
6) Be prepared to compromise
Be prepared for some give and take.
If what you want is reasonable, you shouldn't need to give up on it completely, but be wiling to meet the other person half way.
Remember, when we spend a lot of time with people sometimes arguments can be unavoidable.
The important thing is to speak up, be considerate and not let issues linger. We all want to get along as best as we can with our friends, family and everyone around us, so there's no point holding a grudge over silly arguments or annoyances.