How to Cope with Peer Pressure in Relationships

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Pressure from friends and other folks around us can be hard to handle.

So how can we stick to our guns and only do things when we really want to?

How can I resist?

Try thinking of it this way: if you do this thing and it goes wrong, who gets hurt?

In most cases, it won't be whoever's hassling you to do it.

Rather than doing things on the spur of the moment, take a step back and get clued up.

For example, are you really ready for sex?

Do you know the real facts about taking drugs, smoking or drinking alcohol?

Lastly, ask yourself to think carefully about the people putting pressure on you. If they want you to do something dodgy, they don't have your best interests at heart and you shouldn't trust them.

Do I really want this?

True friends should respect your wishes but not all pressure comes from other people.

We can put pressure on ourselves because we think everyone else is doing something or because we think it's normal.

But we can't know for sure what other people are up to.

Meanwhile, surveys show that the truth about sex is that most  people wait until they're over 16.

The truth about drinking and drugs is that most young people don't drink or take drugs.

How can I save face if people are pressuring me?

First, be aware that people are more likely to respect you if you stick to what you believe in and don't let yourself get pushed into things.

It's also worth thinking of some comebacks you can use when people are hassling you.

For example, if you don't want to drink or take drugs, you could say:

  • I'd rather stay sober and have a good laugh at you lot
  • I want to stay sharp so I can chat someone up
  • I have important stuff to do and don't have time to get wasted or be hungover.

Nobody should ever feel under any pressure to have sex